Reason #1: They Still Have Feelings For You. This may sound bizarre, but often when your ex is acting like an asshole to you or being cold and distant, it means they still care about you or have feelings for you. Their cruelty or confrontational behaviour is their way of dealing with these emotions, and typically it's actually a subconscious. 1- Practice Visualization Techniques. First, you can practice a wide range of visualization exercises that may help you use the law of attraction to win your ex back. A quick and dirty example if you want to do something right now is to try Shakti Gawain's pink bubble technique. To do this, first, close your eyes, then take a few deep breaths.